5 Things NOT to Bring to your Boudoir Session

Preparing for the Boudoir Session

I love writing about how to prepare and what to expect for your boudoir session. I think it’s especially important to know what to bring in so far as flattering outfits that will help your sexiest self shine in the photographs. Boudoir photography is all about self-confidence and showing your best self­– I want that for all of my clients! While I focus so much on what to bring, I have made a list of what NOT to bring based on my experience in my studio.
You can’t go wrong with a Calvin Klein boudoir session– crop and briefs | photo by Boudoir by Tracy Lynn//See more at boudoirbytracylynn.com St. Louis

What NOT to Bring

  • Long necklaces

In my experience, long necklaces just don’t lay very beautifully and can make an otherwise gorgeous photo look off. Of course, if you have a necklace that is meaningful and sentimental, we can make it work! But I highly advise against any sort of costume jewelry– in this case, less is more.
A deep v neck blouse accessorized with metal bangles and gorgeous earrings | photo by Boudoir by Tracy Lynn//See more at boudoirbytracylynn.com STL

  • Kitten Heels

I know, this seems counterintuitive– boudoir photographs are supposed to be sexy and what’s sexier than kitten heels? Well, a lot of things! These are YOUR photos and unless kitten heels are truly your personality and you wear them all the time, don’t go buy any for your session or leave them in your closet. I promise you will look sexy without them!

  • Tight Clothes

Perfect fitting thong and a striped crop// photo by Boudoir by Tracy Lynn//See more at boudoirbytracylynn.com STL
Any bras that are too tight, underwear that digs into your skin, jeans that are tight around the waist, leave them at home. Always size up for boudoir sessions– always! You want to dress for your body and love your body! It’s not worth wearing a smaller size for the sake of it and then having unflattering pinching in photographs. Save yourself the trouble! Treat yourself to a new bra and panties set that fit you like a glove and don’t squeeze you in. For ideas and inspiration on how to dress for your body for a boudoir session, check out my series of outfit ideas.

Ok, my next two items are not tangible but still so important!

  • Attitude is everything

Do try to leave any negativity at home. If some follows you to the studio, I’ll help you shake it and make it a possible experience! But do your best to be open to the experience! I know it’s a new venture for many of my clients but I promise you it will be a great day! And positive vibes make it even better! And if you’re feeling positive on the inside, it will make for better photographs.
Bringing some personality to the boudoir session: a favorite flannel, matching chucks, your favorite team’s baseball cap, with lingerie underneath// photo by Boudoir by Tracy Lynn//See more at boudoirbytracylynn.com St. Louis

  • This Misconception

Forget the notion that this is all for your significant other. Of course, it can make for a gift for your special someone but when it comes down to it, it’s for YOU as well. The day is really all about you and giving you the space to feel your sexiest. Helping women realize their (awesomeness) is what gets me going everyday– Boudoir is absolutely for the woman (maybe even more so than your significant other!) When it’s all said and done and you have your album and maybe a wall portrait, you’ll realize that this experience is definitely about you as well!
Sexy Lingerie set with black heels// photo by Boudoir by Tracy Lynn//See more at boudoirbytracylynn.com// St Louis

Schedule your Session Today!

Wanting to experience boudoir for yourself? Get in touch with me here or at hello@boudoirbytracylynn.com! I can’t wait to talk to you about your upcoming session and your outfits! <3

Boudoir by Tracy Lynn Giveaway Winner!

The Boudoir Giveaway

As promised, there is a winner for my special boudoir giveaway! Before I spill the beans and tell you who won, I want to take a moment to explain why this special woman was selected. While I love providing the magical boudoir session for you to share with your significant other, I’m all about having a boudoir session for YOU! You deserve to feel your best self and sexy. We are so busy caring for everyone else but boudoir is SO GOOD to give back some love back to yourself!
boudoir photography session pouring champagne photo// photo by Boudoir by Tracy Lynn//See more at boudoirbytracylynn.com

And the Winner Is…

A fantastic woman who is all about pushing herself out of her comfort zone! The special winner, Virginia, is a remarkable woman who has two little ones, is a devoted wife of 10 years, and manages a team of employees at work! Virginia is ready to push herself to try new things for personal growth and excitement! Needless to say, I am SO EXCITED for my session with Virginia and give her a fun confidence boost with boudoir! Congratulations, Virginia!

The Fun Session Details

To enter the contest, applicants told me what they envisioned for their session and I love Virginia’s ideas! For wardrobe, she wants to wear a sexy black bra and panty lace set with a fun pair of heels– she considered a corset but did her homework and read on the blog how I don’t recommend that. For makeup, she wants a sexy smokey eye to bring out her gorgeous hazel eyes. She wants to wear her hair down with curls. I know that my hair and makeup gals will make this happen!
Hello Gorgeous! Love a cute mug in a boudoir shot with cozy and sexy lingerie// photo by Boudoir by Tracy Lynn//See more at boudoirbytracylynn.com STL

Congratulations, Virginia!

I’m so excited to have my session with Virginia soon! I love that she wants this not only for her husband but also for herself. She’s such a giving person and I’m excited that she can take some time for herself!
Congratulations, Virginia!
If you’re constantly caring for others and ready to put yourself first and feel sexy, email me at hello@boudoirbytracylynn.com!
Boudoir Giveaway Winner// Gorgeous white lingerie//photo by Boudoir by Tracy Lynn//See more at boudoirbytracylynn.com
boudoir session//privacy// long sleeve shirt/ black panties//photo by Boudoir by Tracy Lynn//See more at boudoirbytracylynn.com//st louis

Why You Should Get that Wall Portrait // St Louis Boudoir Photography

Boudoir Photography & Wall Portraits

When you think of boudoir photography, you probably think of a very intimate and private experience– which in many ways it is. The only people at your session are you, the hair and makeup artist, and me. And perhaps you want an album to take away from your session that’s just for you and your partner to look at tucked away from the kids and the rest of the world. While I definitely want my clients to walk away with an album as a tangible memory, I want them to consider getting a wall portrait along with their album to show the world!

Okay, I’m not talking about the sexiest, raciest of your photos and have you prominently displayed over your mantle in your lingerie, unless you want to! Those photos you can keep in your album. But there are so many kinds of boudoir photos that you can display in great taste! My gorgeous client Alli got an album and a few wall portraits– you can see them on the post about her session here! <
Oversized white button down– perfect for boudoir photography wall portraits!// photo by Boudoir by Tracy Lynn//See more at boudoirbytracylynn.com STL

Why You Should Consider a Wall Portrait With Your Album

Here’s the biggest reason why you should get a wall portrait: YOU are BEAUTIFUL! So often we forget and get caught up in limiting beliefs about ourselves and negative self-talk. I devote my life to boudoir photography to help women realize their beauty and how amazing they are. Your wall portrait serves as a visual cue to remind you how beautiful and worthy you are!

Self Esteem Boost

Psychologically, it has been proven that photographs on the wall will help boost your self esteem. Most of us are doing a boudoir session to boost our self esteem right? I think it’s fair to say that many of us haven’t felt super beautiful or glamorous since our college days or our wedding days (which I think is really sad!). So, we book a boudoir session for our significant other, but really the session ends up being for ourselves– which is a good thing!
Comfy scoop neck grey sweater and light grey knit knee high socks- perfect for boudoir photography wall portraits!//photo by Boudoir by Tracy Lynn//See more at boudoirbytracylynn.com STL

Exuding Confidence, Tastefully

I understand that many of my clients have kids so thinking about displaying a boudoir portrait feels…wrong. Well, I get that! I have many appropriate outfit ideas below that won’t scar them for life, I promise! But here’s the thing, when you’re showing how confident you are, you’re modeling that attitude of self love and acceptance to your kids. I’m no child expert, but it will likely help your children feel more confident in themselves if they see how confident you are in yourself!

Outfit Ideas for the wall portrait

Now let’s talk about how to choose the right portrait outfit that’s self-esteem boosting AND appropriate for young eyes!

Comfy Sweater and Knee High Socks

Comfy sweater and knee high socks- perfect for boudoir photography wall portraits!// photo by Boudoir by Tracy Lynn//See more at boudoirbytracylynn.com STL
So you can radiate confidence while feeling cozy!

Bodysuit

Pink bodysuit paired perfectly with a chambray long sleeve - perfect for boudoir photography wall portraits!// photo by Boudoir by Tracy Lynn//See more at boudoirbytracylynn.com St Louis
A personal and fan favorite! Just like a swimsuit! Good American is a favorite of mine for a gorgeous bodysuit!

Lingerie with a Robe

lingerie covered up by a black robe - perfect for boudoir photography wall portraits!// photo by Boudoir by Tracy Lynn//See more at boudoirbytracylynn.com St. Louis
Exude that self-esteem with a little modesty.

Your Legs

gorgeous legs with patent heels- perfect for boudoir photography wall portraits!// photo by Boudoir by Tracy Lynn//See more at boudoirbytracylynn.com STL
Legs are actually perfect for wall portraits!

Now is the Time! No More Excuses and No More Regrets

I know this sounds cliché but you are perfect the way you are– there is only one of you!  And honestly, life is too short and is worth celebrating. How many years have you wasted giving excuses like wanting to lose though 10 pounds, growing out your hair, or waiting until after running a marathon so that you look ripped, etc. Do you remember the first time you thought this? I do– I was in college. What!? I would give anything to look like I did in college now. You are as young as you will ever be right now! Your body is worth celebrating– it does amazing things for you! Every minute of life is a gift, and they are too precious to waste on regrets.
Comfy off the shoulder dark blush sweater and knee high socks- perfect for boudoir photography wall portraits!// photo by Boudoir by Tracy Lynn//See more at boudoirbytracylynn.com STL

Final Thoughts

Of course a lot more is involved in having a strong self-esteem and sense of self, but I promise you that boudoir photography is an amazing way to not only pamper yourself but also help you realize how awesome and beautiful you are!

If you’re ready to schedule your boudoir session and treat yourself to a beautiful album and portrait, click here to send me an email at hello@boudoirbytracylynn.com!

St Louis Boudoir Photography | Ali

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The strength of a woman can’t be measured by her workout routine. It’s not measured by how heavy the laundry basket she carries is; nor is it based on how many kids she wrestles to cook for, clothe and get ready on a weekday morning. While all of these are things Ali does do, they’re not true measures of how strong she is. Perseverance, fierce love, and devotion are the true signs of her strength. This is a St Louis Boudoir photography client I’ll never forget. Her story is captivating and the results of the shoot are what keep me loving the boudoir photography business!

posing on bed with sheets/photo by Boudoir by Tracy Lynn//See more at boudoirbytracylynn.com

woman doing sexy pose on window/photo by Boudoir by Tracy Lynn//See more at boudoirbytracylynn.com

About Ali

Ali is a single mom who works day-in and day-out to support, take care of, and love her family with all she has. She’s a hard-worker from O’Fallon IL and is only in her thirties. But even at her young age, she felt like she was getting a little burnt out. The wear and tear of day-to-day life can be rough on anyone; but when you add kids to the mix, life gets really tough. Through sheer willpower and endurance, Ali has tirelessly kept on and persevered.

boudoir woman gazing out of the window/photo by Boudoir by Tracy Lynn//See more at boudoirbytracylynn.com

boudoir lying back on couch/photo by Boudoir by Tracy Lynn//See more at boudoirbytracylynn.com

At a certain point, though, she lost any and all focus on self-care and didn’t ever get any “Ali time”. She knew she needed a day that was all about her. In order to take care of others, you need to have some time where you can take care of yourself; even spoil yourself every now and again! Ali contacted me to book her St Louis boudoir photography session to find confidence in herself again. She needed that extra boost to rejuvenate and restore that amazing strength she possessed.

bare shoulder boudoir photo/photo by Boudoir by Tracy Lynn//See more at boudoirbytracylynn.com over the shoulder smile photo/photo by Boudoir by Tracy Lynn//See more at boudoirbytracylynn.com

The Shoot

Ali met me at my St Louis boudoir photography studio, anxious and excited to get started. As always, with my clients, we began by getting her relaxed and giving her some much-deserved pampering. I found out that a few days before, she had received Dysport injections at Pure 111. She confessed she never thought this type of skin-care was for “a person like her”… but it was so cool she did it! To really put yourself out there and do something out of your comfort zone is awesome.

boudoir pose on white couch//photo by Boudoir by Tracy Lynn//See more at boudoirbytracylynn.com

white fur rug boudoir pose//photo by Boudoir by Tracy Lynn//See more at boudoirbytracylynn.com

boudoir booty photo//off the shoulder tee//black nails//hair and makeup//photo by Boudoir by Tracy Lynn//See more at boudoirbytracylynn.com

lying casually on couch//photo by Boudoir by Tracy Lynn//See more at boudoirbytracylynn.com

The results were incredible, as her beauty was radiant throughout the photo shoot. Her fair skin shone gorgeously as the lighting hit it perfectly. Her alluring curves were exciting to shoot as we played with different poses and looks. As an avid John Mayer lover, we had a little fun with the shoot as she chose to wear one of his shirts as an outfit. She was sexy as could be. Slowly, I saw a girl who came warn, tired, and unsure of herself blossom into a strong and powerful woman right before my eyes.

cleavage boudoir photography//photo by Boudoir by Tracy Lynn//See more at boudoirbytracylynn.com

boudoir sheets covering body//photo by Boudoir by Tracy Lynn//See more at boudoirbytracylynn.com

magenta bra and panties//photo by Boudoir by Tracy Lynn//See more at boudoirbytracylynn.com

sexy john mayer shirt//photo by Boudoir by Tracy Lynn//See more at boudoirbytracylynn.com

rule of thirds boudoir pose//photo by Boudoir by Tracy Lynn//See more at boudoirbytracylynn.com

boudoir black bra white button up shirt//photo by Boudoir by Tracy Lynn//See more at boudoirbytracylynn.com

maroon bra and panty set//black heels//photo by Boudoir by Tracy Lynn//See more at boudoirbytracylynn.com

The Aftermath

Ali left her St Louis boudoir photography shoot feeling refreshed and carrying a new attitude. Her self-confidence was restored and she learned this: sometimes mama’s gotta put herself first! Later, at the ordering session, we were looking through her breathtaking boudoir photos. Tears of joy welled in her eyes as she saw the photos. The persevering, devoted, hard-working woman she truly is translated wonderfully in her pictures. Ali is a strong woman in so many ways; after this photo shoot she is now more confident and sure of herself than she has been in a long time. Ali is a force to behold and I’m so glad I got to be her boudoir photographer.

woman opening her gift//photo by Boudoir by Tracy Lynn//See more at boudoirbytracylynn.com

holding a hand written note//photo by Boudoir by Tracy Lynn//See more at boudoirbytracylynn.com

woman looking at her photo//photo by Boudoir by Tracy Lynn//See more at boudoirbytracylynn.com

photo by Boudoir by Tracy Lynn//See more at boudoirbytracylynn.com

woman looking through her boudoir album//photo by Boudoir by Tracy Lynn//See more at boudoirbytracylynn.com

Ali later contacted me to give a review of her experience. Here is what she had to say:

“After my initial meeting with Tracy, I KNEW she would be the photographer I would chose for my boudoir photo session. Tracy has a calm, reassuring aura about her that instantly put me at ease. Not only does Tracy produce beautiful work, she personifies professionalism. I am extremely grateful for Tracy and her talent- she captured me in ways I had never seen myself before-and it has done wonders for my self confidence. After my photo shoot with Tracy, I left her studio feeling BEAUTIFUL AND CONFIDENT- two words that I never thought I’d use to describe myself. Not only do I have a BEAUTIFUL album and wall portraits to document this chapter of my life, I also made a friend:)”

I’m so grateful to be your friend, Ali!

If you’re interested in booking with me, contact me here and we’ll get in touch and talk about how we’re going to bring out your inner fierceness. To check out some more of my work, here is a previous blog post you can check out about Keely the NICU nurse!